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Recommended Read: Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office 101

11 Feb


I bought this book over a year ago but I hadn’t been able to relate to in when I worked in retail.  A conversation with my coworker Maureen sparked my interest in this book again.  I haven’t finished it yet, but I totally recommend it to all of the females who are reading this!

This book is a cheap version of career counseling.  There is a self-assessment in the first chapter that helps you point out your strengths and opportunities in regards to how you present yourself in a work setting.  The assessment breaks down your results into the following categories:  Play, Act, Think, Market, Look, Sound, and Respond.  I scored high on “Think” and “Look” and scored low on “Market” and “Sound.”  In general, everything was pretty low so I will be able to learn a lot from this book!

After you have determined which areas you need to work on, you go to the chapter that gives examples of related mistakes and solutions to fixing those mistakes.  For example, one of the mistakes that I’ve identified in my behavior is “Apologizing (excessively)” which is listed under the chapter titled “How You Sound.”  The author even gives you an action plan to help you correct this mistake.

I plan on using this book throughout the year to correct some of the behaviors that are holding me back from doing my best at work.

I’ve made this super easy for you, just click the link and get your copy of Lois P. Frankel’s book!  Nice Girls Don’t Get The Corner Office.



The Awkward Moment When: You realize that working hard just isn’t enough.

9 Feb

It can be really discouraging when you know that you are doing a lot of great work but you realize that no one is noticing it.  There are two ways to handle this situation:

1.  Accept the fact that others are not going to go out of their way to notice your work and be at peace with that fact

2.  Realize that others are not going to notice your work unless you go out of your way to show them what you’ve done

I think the first option has always been my go-to reaction.  I always thought that good work would get noticed because it always did in school. Regardless of outward recognition, at the end of a semester I’d see a good grade and feel good about the fact that my work was noticed.

How did my teachers know that I was a good student?  They went out of their way to figure out how well I was doing.  They assigned tests, projects, and homework that was meant to be completed, collected, and graded.  Their job was to record my progress and they worked their butts off doing it all year.  The only effort I had to put into the process was hard work.  The rest was up to the teacher.

Now let’s fast forward to my place in the working world.  I am still working hard and completing projects to the best of my ability.  Up until this point in my life (let’s just ignore last year) someone has always tracked my progress.  Up until about 15 minutes ago, it had been natural to assume that someone else would continue to track my progress at work.  This next point is a great argument for why the transition from being a “kid” to an “adult” is not an easy one:  It is now MY job to track MY progress.  If I can’t show others what I’ve done well, I’ll just get lost in the dust.

To complicate this situation ever more, I should mention one important fact about myself:  I hate attention in pretty much every form.  I don’t want people to notice me any more than they notice anyone around me.  Although I appreciate the idea of recognition, I would absolutely hate it if someone made me stand up in front of a room of my peers to congratulate me for doing something well.  To me, the best recognition would be if someone pulled me aside and mentioned that they noticed __(Insert positive feedback here)__.

After rereading my post up until this point, my problem seems very obvious now: my fear of attention has been holding me back from being noticed for a long time.  My assumption that people will notice my hard work just because I’m working hard is wrong.  I know plenty of people who work hard and have never been recognized or noticed.  In an ideal world, those who work hard will be rewarded.  Just in case anyone was wondering…. we do not live in an ideal world.  We live in a world where “the squeaky wheel gets the grease.”  As much as I don’t want to admit it, I know that I need to learn how to be assertive and put myself out there to be judged.

This is that awkward moment when:  I finally understand my own blog title.

I could spend my entire life “Building My Brand” but never actually selling it.

From what I hear, admitting that I have a problem is the first step.  So then what’s the next?

For me, the answer is easy: Planning.

Your A-Game: How do you Bring it??

30 Jan

Your “A-Game” – you know when you are on it, but how do you bring it on lackluster days?  Is it even possible to turn around a bad day?  Let me know what you think!


Today I had a classic case of “The Mondays.”  It was just one of those days that felt like I was in a daze.  I wasn’t able to express my thoughts well so I just tried to avoid most types of conversation.  I felt like my work was confusing, even though I know I have complete control over everything I needed to finish today.  At the end of the day my brain felt exhausted and I felt like I accomplished nothing.  Worst.  Feeling.  Ever.

How do you bring your A-Game even if you didn’t start out the day with it?

How do you pull yourself out of a funk?  I randomly asked a few people this question and these were the responses I got:
–  hit the gym
– find caffeine
– make a To Do list and get organized

How do you do it?  Comment, message me, anything!  Maybe something that works for your will work for me, too!